أحمد محمد لبن Ahmad.M.Lbn
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 | | موضوع: Umm Sulaym bint Milhaan الأربعاء 28 ديسمبر 2016, 6:23 am | |
|  Umm Sulaym bint Milhaan,
May Allaah be pleased with her!
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Talking about Umm Sulaym is multidimensional. Incidences relating to her being around the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, are many. But all revolved around one thing: her love for Allaah and His Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam.
It is in the context of this great love that it can be easy for us to discuss the personality of Umm Sulaym and cast light on her qualities.
While we are presenting her history — with due humility and respect — we beseech Allaah to inspire our Muslim women with the pure spirit of Umm Sulaym so that they can arise from the abyss of stagnation and indolence to a high ground, a place of rest, security and flowing streams. Then the women, who are the half of the society, will no longer remain a captive who indulge in blind imitation and follow desire.
Umm Sulaym was an Ansaari woman from Madeenah. She embraced Islam with the earliest Muslims. The historians greatly disagree on her real name. Some said her name is Sahlah, some said it is Rumaylah, some said it is Rumaythah, some said it Maleekah and some said it is Ghumaysaa' or Rumaysaah'.
Perhaps, this great difference in her name was caused by the popularity of her nickname, Umm Sulaym.
When Umm Sulaym embraced Islam she was married to Maalik ibn Nadr who disagreed with her and continued in his polytheism, having blocked his own heart from guidance and his eyes from the light of Islam. This led to their separation.
That was the first stand of Umm Sulaym after she embraced Islam. The love of Allaah and His Messenger was more precious than the love for marital and family relations, even if the person concerned was a closest relative and the father of the only son, Anas.
Maalik did not only divorce his wife, Umm Sulaym. He also left Madeenah. It was unbearable for him to continue living in Madeenah with the Messenger of Allaah O. So he headed for Syria where he died after a short while, as a lonely refugee. He was not only exiled from his homeland, but also from Allaah's mercy.
This stand of Maalik reminds me of a saying of Allaah's Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam: "Indeed, Madeenah expels (bad) persons as a furnace removes the impurities of iron.”61 The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said the truth.
And Umm Sulaym proceeded in her way to Allaah. If every step she took and every progress she made indicated anything, it is no more than her overwhelming love for Allaah and her attainment of the highest degree in that.
After her divorce from Maalik and his departure for exile, Abu Talhah Al-Ansaari came to ask for her hand in marriage. He was then still on his polytheism and paganism.
What was the response of Umm Sulaym, who preferred the love of Allaah and His Messenger above the love of husband and the father of the only child?
She said in the peak of conditions of faith and certainty, "Abu Talhah, didn't you know that your deity that you worship grow from the earth?" He answered in the affirmative. She said: "Are you then not ashamed of worshipping a tree?"
After this severe rebuke and outright disparaging of the wooden deity, without fearing Abu Talhah who was known for his bravery, strength and position among his people, Umm Sulaym then spoke gently and said: "I have embraced Islam and I do not want any Sadaaq (bridal gift) more than your acceptance of Islam."
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Abu Talhah said: "Let me think over it."
He came back after a while and said: "I testify that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allaah and I testify that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah!"
Umm Sulaym then told her son Anas who had not yet reached puberty, "Anal, give (me) in marriage to Abu Talhah." And the marriage took place.
Umm Sulaym was the first Muslim woman to accept a suitor's embrace of Islam as Mahr (bridal money). This was a new memorable and commendable trend, and it is one of stances recorded in Umm Sulaym's great and glorious record. It is undoubtedly a manifestation of the great love she had for Allaah and His Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam.
The spring of pure love continued to gush out copiously, glowingly and cleanly. She brought her son, Anas who was only a ten-year old boy to the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, and said: "O' Allaah's Messenger! This is Anas, I brought him to serve you!"
The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, excellently received him and accepted him into his household.
Anas remained with the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, serving him for the ten years the Prophet spent in Madeenah, after he migrated there until he died. Never did he leave his company whether he was at home or on a journey. No wonder that he was able to grasp many Ahaadeeth about the Prophet's situations, deeds and sayings. He was in fact, an authority and a treasure of this great knowledge.
This also was a manifestation of the great love for Allaah and His Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, that overwhelmed the life of this eminent woman ever since she accepted Islam until she died.
Milhaan's house which was the home of Umm Sulaym and Umm Haraam was the only house that the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, used to enter besides the apartments of his wives. That may have a reason. Anas gave this reason when he said: "The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, would visit Umm Sulaym who would present him with something she specially made for him." He added, "The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, did not use to enter any house except that of Umm Sulaym — and of course, those of his wives. When he was asked of that he said: "Her brother was killed while he was fighting on my side."
Ibn Hajar said in Al-Isaabah62: "And I said: ‘The reason for his visiting of Umm Haraam and her sister, Umm Sulaym is that the two sisters lived in the same apartment."
Dear reader, this kind of visit that gives members of the household a delight because of the presence of Allaah's Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, used to take place, of course, in the presence of Mahrams.63 For, it is illogical that the Prophet of mercy, guidance, excellent morals and pure laws could have visited women who were not members of his household in the absence of their Mahrams.
He was always as described by Allaah (what means):
{Indeed in the Messenger of Allaah [Muhammad] you have a good example to follow for him who hopes for [the Meeting with] Allaah and the Last Day, and remembers Allaah much.} [Quran 33: 21]
From this great love that abounds in Umm Sulaym's school we learn a new lesson — and how many are her lessons! It is a lesson that is full of cognizance and understanding of fundamentals of marital relationship that is built on tranquillity, love and affection.
Allaah Says (what means):
{And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy ...} [Quran 30: 21]
It is authentically reported that a son of hers born to Abu Talhah died. He had being sick and under a treatment. When Abu Talhah came she requested from members of the household that none of them should inform him of death of his son until she herself had done so. When Abu Talhah came and he asked of the boy, she
62 Al-Isaabah, vol. 4, p. 442. 63 A Mahram is a woman's husband or a male member of her family with whom marriage is permanently forbidden like her father, brother, uncle, etc.
told him, "He has never been as relaxed and quiet as he is now." So Abu Talhah stood up and eat his food.
After that, Umm Sulaym adorned herself for her husband and wore perfume. They went to bed and he cohabited with her. When it was in the morning, she told him, "Seek your reward from Allaah. Your son is now with Allaah!"
Abu Talhah went to the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, while sorrow was visible on him. He informed him of what had happened. Upon that, the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: "May Allaah bless your night for you both!"
Umm Sulaym then became pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy named `Abdullaah ibn Abu Talhah. `Abdullaah was blessed with many children, ten of whom memorized the Quran completely.
The Islamic home in its social and family context is the foundation stone for building the Ummah and its strong and solid structure. So, do not ask me of the reason for the Muslims' weakness, degeneration and retrogression that portend unhappy ending.
Let us proceed to other events of Umm Sulaym's life.
The historians and writers of Seerah and biographies are unanimous that Umm Sulaym used to go out with the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, in his battles, fighting in the way of Allaah within the limits her feminity and capability would permit her.
She was been encouraged with all this by the great love she had for Allaah and His Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam. This reflected in a number of battles but it manifested more in the Battle of Hunayn.
The Battle of Hunayn chronologically took place after the Conquest of Makkah and before the Battle of Taa'if. Umm Sulaym was amongst the Muslim army throughout the battle and hard journey.
Ibn Sa`d narrated with a Saheeh chain of transmission that Umm Sulaym took a dagger on the day of the Battle of Hunayn. When Abu Talhah saw her he went to the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, and told him, "Allaah's Messenger, here is Umm Sulaym holding a dagger!" But she retorted, "I take it so that I can rip the belly of one of the polytheists with it!"
The stances of Umm Sulaym conclude with her narration of the Hadeeth of the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam. A number of the Prophet's companions related these Ahaadeeth from her. Among these companions are: her son Anas, Ibn `Abbaas, Zayd ibn Thaabit, Abu Salamah ibn `Abdur-Rahmaan and others, may Allaah be pleased with them.
May Allaah be pleased with Umm Sulaym and please her! She was, in fact, a school in herself! |
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